wedding gift what to buy

So you have a date, a dress-code-approved outfit, and a fierce craving for bubbly. The last thing left on your to-do list is probably figuring out a wedding gift. If you find yourself struggling, we have some ideas and answers for all your gift-related questions below!

How much should I spend on a wedding gift?

You’ve probably heard various “rules” when it comes to wedding gifts. Like the ones that tell you not to spend less than $50 or instruct you to use the price-per-plate as a measuring factor. It’s tempting to assign a dollar value to gifts, especially when it comes to weddings. But the reality is, everyone’s financial situation is different and it’s entirely up to you when deciding how much to spend on a wedding gift. Consider your own budget and your relationship to the couple.

What should I buy?

Most major retailers allow couples to create a wedding registry, which guests can easily access online or by visiting the store in person. You can typically find these highlighted on the couple’s wedding website or invitation. In general, it’s a good idea to stick to these registries because a lot of effort goes into creating them (and for good reason!)

If the couple doesn’t have a registry, try thinking of some nice household items that someone might like, but would never actually purchase. Aim to find something that creates a spa-like, hotel feel with a touch of luxury! Here are some ideas we love:

  • Deluxe accent pillows
  • A thick down blanket
  • A set of high thread-count sheets
  • A pair of soft, luxury towels
  • A designer candle (like one of these Jo Malone options)
  • One of those fancy Rabbit wine openers (because who wouldn’t want this?)
  • A nice bottle of wine or champagne

Group gifting is also a popular trend right now. Sites Like Blueprint Registry enable a couple to set up a honeymoon fund, a home project fund, or just a general fund for a big-ticket item. For a small fee, you can contribute a cash gift to the couple that goes toward a particular fund.

Still stuck? Remember, if all else fails, no one is going to be upset about receiving a nice card with a check.

How soon should I send a gift?

Ideally, it’s best to send a gift shortly after receiving the wedding invitation, or within three months of the wedding date. That being said, late is better than never!

Should I bring the gift to the wedding?

If you can avoid it, it’s best to not bring your gift to the wedding (especially if it’s a destination wedding!) The couple won’t want to have to carry it around and chances are, they’ll already have quite a few things packed with them. Having your gift shipped straight to their home will make things much easier.