It’s just two months until the big day. The bridal party is chosen, the menu selected, and the cake taste-tested. Now is the time to send out the invitationsÂ â€” but how does one address wedding invitations? Don’t worry â€” this is our territory.
There is a formal way to address wedding invitations, and we’re happy to walk you through it. The questions may already be bubbling up in your own mind: Whose name should you write first? How do you tell single guestsÂ whether they’re welcomeÂ to bring a plus one? How do you invite a whole family?
All of these questions â€” and probably a few others â€” are about to be answered. But before you write the addresses for each person on your guest list, let’s talk about envelopes.
Wedding Envelopes: Inner vs. Outer
When sending out wedding invitations, unless you’re sending one virtually, there are two envelopes. We know it sounds a bit confusing, but stick tight with us for just a minute, and we’ll clear things up. If you do choose to send one digitallyÂ (and save plenty of paper in the process!), we’ll address that further down in this post.
The Outer Envelope for Mailing
The outer envelopeÂ is where you print a guest’s physical address. Therefore, this is the envelope handled by your mail courier. You’ll type (or hand write, if you’re feeling ambitious) your guests’ namesÂ on the first line, complete with titles, first names, and last names (middle namesÂ are optional). While you can abbreviate a title, you should spell out first names.
Next, write the physical address of your guests’ home or post office box. Again, use full words here (no abbreviations) writing Street instead of St., Road instead of Rd, and so on and so forth.
The Inner Envelope for Inviting
Within the inner envelope, your guests will find the invitation suite. Each guest invited to the wedding will have their names printed on this envelope. Except this time, you just need to print titles and last names.
Take note: This is your opportunity to be very specific about who is invited to your wedding. If you are welcoming plus ones, you will allude to that here (more on this below). If you’re inviting two people, both their names should be printed.
Invitation Etiquette: How to Address Wedding Invitations
Now that you have the envelopes sorted out, it’s time to address your invitations. But how does one do this? Below, you’ll learn exactly how to address each envelope, depending on your guests’ names, titles, and relationships to one another.
1. A Married Couple with the Same Last Name
For married couples with the same last name, you have a few options. The most common approach for formal invitationsÂ is to write both the husband and wife’s titles on the outer envelope, in addition to the husband’s first and last name. On the inner envelope, you’ll write just the couple’s title and collective last name. So if you take this approach, your envelopes will look like this:
Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Portz
Mr. and Mrs. Portz
However, some women appreciate their full namesÂ being printed. If you anticipate your guest wishing to be addressed as such, print the woman’s nameÂ alongside her husband’s.
Mr. Thomas Portz and Mrs. Karen Portz
Mr. and Mrs. Portz
(You could also simply write “Thomas and Karen” if you’d prefer a more casual tone.)
With heterosexual couples,Â it’s customary for the male’s name to be written first. Although, this is simply a tradition, and we encourage you to address envelopes in whichever way you see fit. With same-sex couples, you can choose to write their names in alphabetical order, such as:
Mrs. Kira Gonzalez-Strong and Mrs. Sarah Gonzalez-Strong
Mrs. and Mrs. Gonzalez-Strong (or Kira and Sarah)
2. A Married Couple With Different Last Names
If you have guests who are married but share different last names, there’s a bit of discrepancy as to whose name should be written first. Some believe that ladies go first (the opposite of the above scenario). Others state that you should write them in alphabetical order, while still others believe the guest you’re closest to should be written first. An example of this scenario would be:
Mrs. Cristina Anderson and Mr. Ben McCartney
Mrs. Anderson and Mr. McCartney (or Cristina and Ben)
3. Unmarried Couples
If a couple is not married, it’s customary to write their names on two separate lines. For an unmarried couple living together, you will write their names in alphabetical order. For example, you’ll write:
Miss (or Ms.) Stephanie Belitz
Miss (or Ms.) Katie Foster
Miss (or Ms.) Belitz
MissÂ (or Ms.) Foster
On the other hand, if the couple does not live together, you will send the invitation to the guest you’re closest to. Therefore their name will be the only one listed on the outer envelope. So this scenario will look like this:
Miss (or Ms.) Megan Peterman
Miss (or Ms.) Peterman
4. Single Guests
If your guests are single, you will write their full nameÂ and title on the outer envelope. If you are welcoming a plus one, you will write their name with “and Guest” on the inner envelope. It would look like:
Mr. Ari Black
Mr. Black (and Guest)
If your guest is a formerly married woman, her title will change depending on whether she returned to her maiden name. If she kept her married name, you would address her as “Mrs. Carole McCarthy.” However, if she returned to her maiden name, you would write, “Miss Carole Perrin.”
If children are invited to your wedding, you will simply write each family member’s first names underneath their parents’ names, from oldest to youngest. If, however, the child is over the age of 18 (even if they still live with their parents), they should receive their own invitation. To include the entire familyÂ on an invite, you would write:
Mr. and Mrs. Chris Thompson
Mr. and Mrs. Thompson
Nathan, James, and Bella
6. Professional Titles
If one of your guests is a doctor, judge, pastor, or military personnel, their respective invitation should reflect their distinguished titles. If each guest within a couple has a title, and the two combined names and titles don’t fit on one line, it is customary to indent the second line. Some examples include:
Dr. Abby and Mr. Tom Baker
Dr. Baker and Mr. Baker
You could also use a format like this:
Captain Juliana Frye
Lieutenant Steven Bryant
How to Address Wedding Invitations with One Envelope
Finally, what happens if your wedding invitationsÂ only have one envelope? With Greenvelope, you’ll skip the post office line and conveniently send your wedding invitationsÂ directly to your guests’ inboxes. There will only be one envelope, so you’ll typically use the “outer envelope”Â standards, with two Â exceptions: Be sure to list every guest’s name, including children and those who live in different households, and include â€śAnd Guestâ€ť on the envelope for those whom are allowed to bring a plus one.
On Your Day, You Make the Rules
With all these customs in mind, this is your wedding, so you get to make the rules. Your wedding day will be filled with your favorite people from all walks of life â€” with many different lifestyles and living situations. Think of each individual guest as you write their invitation, considering how they wish to be addressed.
From all of us at Greenvelope, have a wonderful wedding day. The countdown is officially on!