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Planning a wedding is fun, meaningful, joyous, and let\u2019s be honest \u2014 a bit overwhelming! One common stressor for a lot of couples is thinking of <\/span>wedding ceremony ideas<\/span> that aren\u2019t run of the mill.<\/span><\/p>\n

Luckily, we have ideas for how to personalize your <\/span>wedding ceremony<\/span>. From alternative rituals to readings to layout suggestions, you can make your wedding stand out with these non-<\/span>traditional wedding ceremony ideas<\/span>.<\/span>
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What Are Unique Wedding Ceremony Ideas?<\/b><\/h2>\n

Come for the cool <\/span>unity ceremony ideas<\/span>, stay for the rule breaking and meaning making in this list. Be inspired by these 16 ways to make your day unique and modern.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Have a Reading From an Author or Poet You Love<\/b><\/h3>\n

Customize your <\/span>wedding ceremony<\/span> by incorporating your favorite passage, poem, or lyrics that encapsulate your relationship. It doesn\u2019t have to be serious \u2014 a pop song, a funny monologue from a movie, or a sweeping declaration of love from a romantasy book are all valid if you like them. Pick something that will make you both smile and holds some meaning to who you both are.<\/span><\/p>\n

The reading can also celebrate the freedom you have to be married. Many queer couples do a reading from <\/span>Justice Kennedy\u2019s summary of the Obergefell ruling<\/a><\/strong>, which contains this stunning set of words: \u201cMarriage responds to the universal fear that a lonely person might call out only to find no one there. It offers the hope of companionship and understanding and assurance that while both still live there will be someone to care for the other.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Do a <\/b>Ring Warming<\/b> Ceremony<\/b><\/h3>\n

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Adopt the <\/span>Celtic tradition of passing the rings<\/a><\/strong> from guest to guest. Each guest holds your <\/span>wedding rings<\/span> and offers a silent blessing: a wish, a positive vibe, or a prayer for the couple. The rings snake their way to the front in time for the <\/span>ring exchange<\/span>. Make sure to tie the rings together and place them on a cushion or in a box so they don\u2019t get lost or dropped.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you have a bigger wedding, place the rings on a special table as guests enter the ceremony. Have signage and a ring guardian to explain what to do (and watch over the rings). <\/span>Loved ones<\/span> can hold the rings for a moment to offer their warming encouragement, and the ring guardian can deliver the rings before you <\/span>tie the knot<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Have a <\/b>Unity Sand Ceremony<\/b><\/h3>\n

Plan a <\/span>sand ceremony<\/span> to symbolize coming from two different places and becoming a united duo. All you need to do is have separate containers of sand and pour them together into a larger vessel.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can use colorful sand to represent yourselves and even have your children contribute their own sand to represent your new blended family.<\/span><\/p>\n

One of our favorite spins on this <\/span>unity ceremony idea<\/span> is to bring sand from the area you each live and mix it together.<\/span><\/p>\n

Any way you pour it, a sand <\/span>unity ritual<\/span> is meaningful in the moment and makes a beautiful <\/span>keepsake<\/span> to display in your home together.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Have a <\/b>Hand Fasting Ceremony<\/b><\/h3>\n

A <\/span>hand fasting ceremony<\/span> is a centuries-old practice to solidify your new marriage. This ritual involves wrapping a cord or ribbon around the couple\u2019s hands, and it\u2019s where the phrase \u201c<\/span>tying the knot<\/span>\u201d originated. This ceremony has long been observed in <\/span>Celtic<\/span> and Chinese communities and carries deep cultural significance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Get all the details and adapt it to your unique love using <\/span>our guide on the hand fasting ceremony<\/a><\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Break <\/b>Wedding Party<\/b> Rules<\/b><\/h3>\n

There are so many <\/span>wedding traditions<\/span> that bind a couple to gender norms, color codes, and strict conformity. Remember that there are no rules!<\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need <\/span>bridesmaids<\/span> and groomsmen \u2014 you can have bridesmen and groomswomen. People on either side can wear dresses, suits, or jumpsuits. Color palettes can be free and wild, and the <\/span>wedding party<\/span> can even wear white if you want (gasp!).<\/span><\/p>\n

Do whatever makes you happy! Toss out the rulebook, and focus on what would make your day perfect.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Skip the White Dress<\/b><\/h3>\n

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While we\u2019re on the topic of wedding clothing, who says you need to wear a white dress or black suit? We\u2019ve seen gorgeous wedding outfits in all colors of the rainbow. Patterned suits, floral gowns, short dresses, red jumpsuits \u2014 it\u2019s all allowed on your <\/span>big day<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Hire a Live Musician<\/b><\/h3>\n

Live music will bring an unforgettable imprint to your <\/span>special day<\/span>. Ditch the aux cord and all the technical complications that come with it. Hire real, live people to play your ceremony music.<\/span><\/p>\n

A singer and an acoustic guitar will bring a down-to-earth energy, and a string quartet will be sweeping and romantic. If the <\/span>wedding budget<\/a><\/strong> is running low, pick a musically inclined friend who can do some covers of your favorite love songs and ask if that can be their wedding present to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

8. Reimagine the Ceremony Layout<\/b><\/h3>\n

Some of the coolest wedding ideas we\u2019ve seen lately have been a nontraditional ceremony seating arrangement.<\/span><\/p>\n

Try a center stage with circular seating so you can both see guests in your eye line during the ceremony. For the <\/span>processional<\/span>, you can enter simultaneously from different sides of the circle if you don\u2019t want to go one at a time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Or, keep the classic center aisle but turn the chairs inward. You, your soon-to-be-spouse, and your <\/span>wedding officiant<\/span> will stand in the middle, giving everyone a great view.<\/span><\/p>\n

P.S.: You don\u2019t <\/span>have<\/span><\/i> to enter the ceremony separately. A lot of couples find comfort and beauty in walking down together to start the ceremony as one.<\/span><\/p>\n

9. Break Wedding Song Norms<\/b><\/h3>\n

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Instead of a moody <\/span>playlist<\/span> for a tear-filled walk down the aisle, what about some high-energy music? Get everyone dancing early with a celebratory <\/span>processional<\/span> instead of a tearful one.<\/span><\/p>\n

This swap can be perfect for brides and grooms who feel awkward about tons of people silently staring at them while they try not to trip.<\/span><\/p>\n

10. Create an Anniversary <\/b>Wine Box<\/b><\/h3>\n

During the ceremony, place <\/span>love letters<\/span> you wrote to one another in a box with a <\/span>bottle of wine<\/span> from that year \u2014 a bottle of your favorite spirit if you\u2019re not big on wine. After a set number of years, open the box, share the bottle, and read the letters you wrote to each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

This <\/span>anniversary box<\/span> can also be done sans-alcohol. Place letters and <\/span>keepsakes<\/span> from your venue, take a spontaneous Polaroid of one another during the ceremony (yes, in front of everyone!), and add a nonperishable food item from the day.<\/span><\/p>\n

11. Plant a Tree<\/b><\/h3>\n

Symbolize the growth of your relationship with a <\/span>tree planting<\/span> during your ceremony. You can come back to the site year after year and see the tree grow. Make sure to clear it with the venue first, of course! Pre-dig the hole so you can protect your outfits and make sure the spot is ready.<\/span><\/p>\n

This physical representation of your love will be something you can hold onto for the rest of your lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

12. Share a Drink<\/b><\/h3>\n

Treat yourself to a nice drink during the ceremony that doubles as a symbol of your unity. Share sips from the same cup to show the love and trust you have for one another. This can be something like wine, whisky, or Martinelli\u2019s. You can also each bring a spirit from your hometown and mix them together into a shot glass. Follow it up with reading your <\/span>own vows<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

13. Tell Your <\/b>Love Story<\/b><\/h3>\n

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For many non-religious couples, <\/span>building the ceremony script<\/a><\/strong> can feel difficult since many <\/span>traditional wedding ceremonies<\/span> are tied to spirituality.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our advice is simple: Tell the story of your love. Write down how you met, what your first date was like, and how you knew you <\/span>loved one<\/span> another. Describe your favorite things about your partner. Your <\/span>officiant<\/span> can weave your story together into a <\/span>ceremony script<\/span> that will have everyone swooning.<\/span><\/p>\n

14. Have Whoever You Want for a <\/b>Ring Bearer<\/b> and <\/b>Flower Girl<\/b><\/h3>\n

The title says it all. Break the rules on <\/span>ring bearers<\/span> and <\/span>flower girls<\/span>! They don\u2019t have to be your little nieces and nephews, or even a <\/span>family member<\/span> at all. Make the <\/span>ring bearer<\/span> your college roommate. Make the <\/span>flower girl<\/span> into a flower boy, and have your best friend scatter flower petals \u2014 the guests will get a kick out of it. You can even have your dog deliver the rings!<\/span><\/p>\n

15. Memory Sharing<\/b><\/h3>\n

Instead of the <\/span>officiant<\/span> being the only one who talks, try one of these two ideas for getting more people involved in the ceremony:<\/span><\/p>\n